The 'Human Doing' and the 'Human Being'

Stress has an incredible impact on everyone's life, but particularly so for women. Stress does impact our ability to create a strong relationship with self. The daily stress that we experience creates a duality and separates us from our own true nature. If you have been feeling like two different people who are both pulled in many directions, you are not alone. The one part of you is the Human Doing. She is the one who goes non-stop during the day, almost always thinking of others and what needs to get done. She is very good at blaming herself when things do not flow smoothly. The other part of you is the Human Being. She desires two things:

     1) To live a more balanced life, and

     2) To have genuine connection with herself and the significant
     others in her life.

She wants to express her talents, gifts and creativity in a way that does not have regular expression in the Human Doing world. Do you ever find yourself feeling angry and depressed, especially around the people in your life with who you want to be at your best? Do you find that they often get the worst of you? This is common in our lives today, and a reality based on being two people living in one body trying to get everything done, while at the same time walking around feeling guilty and often inadequate.

Imagine the Human Being part of you standing off to the side watching the Human Doer all day long. Once in a while, she finds a way to express herself and the gifts that she really wants to give the world.More often than not, she waits in the wings hoping to be noticed andembraced, and become a regular part of your life. When she is let inregularly, life is actually lived more smoothly. The feeling of beingcontinually fragmented throughout the day is reduced. You no longerfeel like you are running all day trying to catch up with yourself.Starting this reunion of the Human Being and Doing begins with owning your qualities ......

The Meaning of Success

Success means different things to different people. For women, it also means different things based on the age and stage we are at in our lives. For a woman who is a student or starting her career, it is different than for a woman with children or teens at home. And, for a woman whose children are leaving the nest, or a woman who is aging and may have increased demands from her parents, success has a different meaning. Yet, regardless of the age of a woman or the stage in her life,there is a common inner conflict in regards to success.What increases our stress is that our internal belief system for what success means comes from an outdated source that is based on the values of others and not ourselves.This outdated view has these values at its core:

Thinking of success as something in the future, and not in the
here and now.

Seeing success through how others have defined it.

Seeing ourselves as successful only when someone says or
validates that we are.

What if you began to see yourself as a success in whatever you are
doing today? What if you started seeing yourself as a successful woman based upon your unique qualities, and how you express them each day? What if you see your success in every problem you solve, every task you do, every smile you give, and with every nose you wipe?Being able to value who you are and all that you do as success catapults your energy to new levels. It allows you to hold your own importance in the midst of all that is usuallydefined as insignificant.

So, how have we learned to undervalue so much of what we do that expresses our true nature and reflects our uniqueness? It is an outcome of both gender's beliefs about success, and how this belief system is active at home, at work, in business, and within most of the contacts that we have each day. As women, we have learned to internalize these beliefs and make them part of how we define ourselves. In addition, ourinternal turmoil is heightened as these outdated beliefs about success conflict with our true nature and what success really means to us .........

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